The emotional journey of moving an older parent in with you doesn’t have to be stressful. Check out these valuable tips!
There may come a time in life when we have to help our parents as they get older. Unfortunately moving them into a home may not be an option and this is where bringing them in to live with us can be the lifeline that they need. But this is something that we need to give great consideration to. There are many reasons why we should put there are many things that we need to consider. But what are these?
Will the House Require Modifications?
You have to consider the nature of your parent’s inability to move around. Will they require additional assistance? And if they are in a wheelchair, you may have to modify the property to incorporate wheelchair ramps and provide extra assistance with regards to hygiene practices. If you have more than one floor, you may have to incorporate a stairlift as well. The modifications can be expensive. It’s worth preparing and doing the math upfront.
How Will It Affect Your Daily Lives?
There is going to be a shakeup in the routine. And when you have your own children living in the property, you may have to consider how your parent’s presence will affect everything. This is not just about the family routine but the activities but also the sense of privacy. If you move someone into your home and there are unresolved family issues this may very well cause tension. Your daily lives will change for the foreseeable future. You need to consider if you are ready for this shakeup.
Can You Give Them the Care They Need?
When we are looking to bring a relative into our home it’s with the best of intentions. But we have to remember if we are able to give them the care that they need. It’s not just about making them fit in around our duties but it’s about making sure that their quality of life is what it was prior to moving in with us. If you are working a busy and stressful job, are you able to dedicate enough time and energy to your parent? In addition to this, how does your parent feel about moving? Do they have their own concerns? It’s important to clear the air and make sure you discuss everything before going through the process of moving them in.
Are You Able To Cope With the Changes?
It is all dependent on the family member and their needs but you have to remember that it can be very stressful for you. Your life will change and it’s not just about the daily routines being shaken up but it’s about making sure that they have everything they need but also you have to remember that you are going to become their caregiver. This is a lot of pressure on anybody. Looking after your relatives can be stressful and you need to ask yourself if you are up to the task. You may have the best of intentions, but being a caregiver is an emotional journey and physical weight.